I realized recently that I have never met someone who was both successful and a pessimist. All of the successful people I have met are largely an optimist and I have come to the conclusion on why this is so. At first, this finding wasn’t that intriguing to me. It almost seemed obvious and irrelevant when my brain came this discovery. However, once I did some self-reflecting I realized that this is incredibly important to me and it should be to you too. I want to be someone who achieves success in many different areas of my life and I’m sure that you are too. So, I think it’s important that we live free of unnecessary pessimism and this is why:
- Pessimists see problems but not opportunities. I often hear pessimists complain about problems and very seldom do they discuss solutions. When we encounter a problem we should view it as an opportunity. Actually, problems present several opportunities. By taking on a problem you are opening yourself up for learning. After you figure out the problem you might have learned something that will help you in a future endeavor. This knowledge could eventually help get you a promotion at work, help you land that next client, and could benefit you in an unexpected way. Solving problems could help you to gain very valuable skills. Being a problem solver is someone who is an optimist and someone who can see the opportunities within problems. Opportunists are the types of people that we want on our team.
- Pessimists have a negative attitude. Let me start this off with: a negative attitude gets you nowhere! If you know me then you know how important I think it is to have a great attitude. I grew up with a dad that instilled in me how important this is. He is one of the hardest working people I know and he has always had that positive “can-do” attitude. Being around someone who has a negative attitude is terrible for you and your team. A negative attitude communicates a lack of confidence, a lack of enthusiasm, and a lack of willpower and you don’t want any part of these characteristics for you or your team. If you have someone with a negative attitude on your team, you need to do something about it, RIGHT NOW! I’ve seen companies seriously damaged by a single person with a negative attitude. The worst part about a negative attitude is that it’s infectious and if it isn’t dealt with immediately it will destroy morale, confidence, and your desire to win. If you’re the one with the negative attitude you need to make a commitment to yourself that you’re going to change!
- Pessimists make poor leaders. I’ve seen leaders whose pessimism came in the form of complaining. It seemed like they complained about everything. The complaining brought down the whole team and severely dampened the team’s overall performance. If you’re a leader that complains I can assure you it’s keeping your team from reaching their top performance. And if your team is performing poorly, I highly doubt that you’re going to be up for any promotions anytime soon. Leaders need to have a positive outlook and I’m not saying the outlook needs to be unrealistic or fake. A leader can be “real” and be positive even in the presence of challenging situations. When times get tough leaders look for the silver lining and focus their team’s attention on that.
I urge you my friends, be intentional about being an optimist and your goals will be ever closer. Stay away from pessimists because their pessimism can sneak into your life like a sickness. By being a pessimist, you’ll be blind to opportunity, have a negative attitude, and will bring down those around you. Be someone who lifts others up and give others hope by being an optimist. If you do this, you’ll see more production from your team, you’ll see more success in your life, and you’ll be the leader that people want to work with.
It’s time to do some self reflection: Ask yourself these questions:
Are you seeing just problems or are you seeing opportunities for solutions?
Are you being intentional about having a good attitude when challenges come up?
Are you sharing optimism with those around you so that they can benefit from an optimistic attitude?
Are you complaining too much in front of others you work with or your family?