Increasing Prosperity And Happiness Through Gratitude

Before reading this post or listening to this podcast ask yourself the following personal growth questions: Have you been intentional about being grateful lately? What are the things that you’re most grateful for? How can you make a positive impact in the lives of others by showing that you’re grateful for them what they do?

It seems like every so often in life we get caught up in the daily grind and we forget to take a moment to appreciate everything that we have. If you want to create more happiness in not only your life but also in the lives of those around you and at the same time create more prosperity then you need to be intentional about being grateful. Often times, we’re quick to focus on the negative more so than focusing on the positive, and this is one of the reasons that I believe it’s important to be intentional about having gratitude.

Focusing on positive things helps us to create more happiness. It drowns out the negative thoughts that sometimes seem to pillage our minds. When I get busy and I’m not taking time to simply contemplate the good things that I have in my life I find that negativity seeps into my world. Being grateful for blessings is one of the best ways to stop negativity in its tracks. Getting in the habit of being grateful can help us sustain happiness and when we create happiness in our own life it spreads, through our actions, to others around us. When we’re grateful and we outwardly express it to those around us it communicates to others that we are grateful for them, and thus, brings happiness to those around us. In the business world, when a managers or team leader is outwardly expresses gratitude for his or her team it creates more productivity and more effectiveness.

If you want prosperity in your life then I highly recommend winning with gratitude. Being grateful for the things in your life can help you to see what your strengths are which can help you to better identify opportunities that come up. Seeing and acting on opportunities that help you reach your goals is how you create success in life. A negative person who is always focused on the bad is not going to see the opportunities that will help them to achieve success. However, a person who can see their own strengths can identify ways that they can use their strengths to bless others. You will find that by bringing value to the lives of others you will bring value to your own life.

A good attitude helps people become successful and gratitude helps support a good attitude. Attitude can be everything when it comes to success in the business world. Have you ever been helped by someone with a poor attitude? I have, and I tell you what, I dread going to businesses where the people there have poor attitudes. Your attitude can make or break your career. I’ve seen very competent people not receive a promotion simply because they had a poor attitude. I’ve also seen people who had a great attitude get hired over others who were more highly qualified simply because they had great attitude. I’m telling you, if you want a successful career or a successful business, have a great attitude.

If you’re currently bogged down with problems and you feel like negativity has you down remember that there’s someone else out there that would love to have your problems because their problems are much worse than yours. If you’re unhappy with your job then remember there’s someone who would love to have the job that you have. If you’re not happy with the home that you live in, remember, there’s someone out there that would love to have the home that you live in. You get the idea. Be thankful. Don’t let dissatisfaction bring negativity into your life and always have a heart of gratitude.

Pruning Your Life To Create Focus And Success

Hey guys! In this post I’m going to talk about pruning your life. This means cutting back the things that you don’t need to do so that you can put more focus on the things that will help you to reach your goals. I know that you’ve experienced this too, that point you realize you’re crazy busy with life and it doesn’t seem like you’re making the kind of progress on your goals that you want. When you hit this point it’s time to do some pruning. So, what does pruning mean and how is it going to help me?  This is the question that I will be answering in this post.

I grew up out in the country near acres and acres of apple, pear, and cherry trees and every winter work crews would work their way through each tree pruning off the excess growth. Someone might ask “Why would you want to prune branches that are going to bear perfectly good fruit”. The answer to this question in one word is: quality. If a fruit tree grows unpruned it’ll likely grow a tremendous amount of fruit, which might sound like a good thing, however, it isn’t, simply because the tree actually grows too much fruit. An apple tree for example is going to grow more apples than it has nutrients to grow into quality fruit. The fruit on the unpruned tree will be very small because there are so many pieces of fruit on the tree sharing the nutrients that the tree provides. So, by pruning back some of the tree it creates fewer places that fruit can grow. By doing this, the apples that do grow will have a higher amount of nutrients and will grow to become big, plump, beautiful apples.

In life it can be easy for many of us to find ourselves over committing, trying to do too many things, and not giving our goals the appropriate amount of time and resources required. After some amount of time goes by we look at our lack of progress with these goals and then wonder why we’re not getting anywhere. If this happens to you, it’s time to start doing some pruning. If you find yourself saying yes way too often and then becoming distracted from reaching your goals it’s time to start saying no. Saying no to one thing means that you get to say yes to something else. Therefore, saying no is a form of pruning.

When it comes to health, wealth, and happiness, pruning can help you to focus more time and resources on your goals in these areas. One of the biggest reasons I tell myself that I’m not going to the gym is because “I’m too busy”. As we all know, this is totally a bogus reason for not going. I need to be better at prioritizing my time and if you find yourself slacking in health, wealth, or happiness because you “don’t have the time”, then you need to do a better job at prioritizing too. When we prioritize we simply look at the things that are most important to us and we make sure that we’re paying the right amount of attention to these areas. For the area of happiness, are you spending enough time with your family and loved ones? If you’re not, I can tell you that you’re going to regret it when your relationships start to suffer. Are you spending the proper amount of time to budget and plan for building wealth? If you’re not, your going to realize down the road that you wish you would have done a better job at this. For your health, are you spending enough time in the gym and making healthy meals? Or are you skipping the gym and eating junk because you “don’t have time”? The only way you’re going to be successful is if you make time to be successful and you make your goals priorities. Do you want to be a great husband and a great father or a great wife and a great mother? Then you need to be intentional about dedicating time to this area of your life. Do you want to be a wealth builder? Then you need to be intentional about dedicating time to this area of your life. Do you want to live a healthy lifestyle? Then you need to be intentional about dedicating time to this area of your life. You don’t become successful in something by accident. You become successful by being intentional about your goals in that area of your life. You must give those goals the necessary time and resources to accomplish them.

There are other areas of your life that you can prune besides just areas that will give you more time. Sometimes people need to be pruned from your life. Is someone in your life dragging you down instead of building you up? Does this person create negativity in your life and slow you down from reaching your goals? If so, you may have to decide that this person doesn’t need to take anymore of your time and “unfriend” them. This sounds a little harsh and it doesn’t have to be that drastic. Simply deciding to spend less time around someone that brings you down and spend more time around someone that builds you up is all you need to do. But what if this person is close to you and you can’t escape them? If the person that is bringing you down is a coworker or family member that you can’t really unfriend you need to have a talk with them. Make some time to meet with this person one on one. Tell them that they’re negativity is dragging you down. I believe that communication is key in most situations. Some people might not even realize that they’re being negative and dragging you down and maybe a good chat will help them to realize what they’re doing. You could have a really positive effect on his or her life just by taking the time to help them realize the effects of their actions.

Another area of your life that you can prune is the area of habits. Do you have some bad habits that you need to rid yourself of? A while back I realized that I was drinking way too many sodas throughout the week and so I cut back to drinking just one or two a week. I really enjoy a nice cold soda but drinking too many isn’t good for you just like too much of just about anything isn’t good for you. When it comes to pruning bad habits in your life you must take a hard look at the things that you’re doing that you know you probably shouldn’t be. Are you drinking too much alcohol? Are you smoking? Are you eating ice cream just before you go to bed? Are you drinking caffeinated beverages late in the day or early evening? What is a habit that you know you need to prune out of your life?

Pruning can be difficult. It takes discipline and it takes courage. It takes strength to walk away from someone or something that is keeping you from reaching your goals. However, the fact is that pruning will help you to reach your goals and pruning will help you to build yourself into the person that you want to be.

Winning With Discipline

Here are some huge takeaway points as you read through this post or listen this podcast:

  • In what areas of your life do you need more self-discipline?
  • In the area of health, do you need to cut back on eating that junk food so you can reach your health goals?
  • For the area of wealth, maybe you need to create a budget or review the budget that you’ve already made in order to get on track to reach your financial goals.
  • Maybe for happiness you need a little more self-discipline when it comes to creating more happiness in the lives of others which will create more happiness in your own life.

Hey guys! This week I’m going to talk about a characteristic that people can have that will help them in health, wealth, and happiness. This is somewhat of a special post that I call Trifecta. What is a trifecta? One definition of trifecta from Dictionary.com says “Any achievement involving three successful outcomes”. In most of my blog posts and podcast episodes I focus on just one of the subjects, health, wealth, or happiness, but in the Trifecta posts and episodes I’m going to talk about what it takes to be successful in all three subjects.

This week’s trifecta characteristic is discipline, a.k.a. self-discipline. This is something that you need if you want to be successful at anything in your life. Yourdictionary.com defines self-discipline as “The ability you have to control and motivate yourself, stay on track and do what is right.” The key word that I like in this definition is “control”. You must have control over your life if you want to reach your goals. You’re probably thinking to yourself, “Of course I have control over myself. I’m the one who controls my own life and no one else.” And you would be right, we do have control over ourselves. But far too often we allow ourselves to get off track. For example, if I set a goal for hitting the gym at least three times a week and then after going only two times I decide that I rather go eat a cheeseburger and a milkshake in stead of working out that is a loss of self control and a lack of discipline. If you want to reach your goals you must learn to have a high level of discipline. This means that you do what you say you’re going to do even when there are other things out there tempting you.

So what does discipline look like when it’s applied to health? This would be staying true to your health and fitness goals. Like my prior example maybe you’ve set a goal for going to the gym on a regular basis or maybe you’ve set a goal to eat healthier. You need to make sure that you go to the gym as you planned or that you don’t eat a bunch of junk food so that you reach your “eating healthy” goal.

Ok, what does discipline look like when it’s applied to wealth? This could mean that you keep a budget of you monthly expenses and every other week or so you go back to that budget to review your progress and update different costs or amounts. Staying true to your wealth goals means not going out and making spontaneous purchases that are not in your budget. If you want to buy something that ok just fit it into your budget so that you can still reach your financial goals while also buying the things that you want. For example, there are always new things that I want to buy but I don’t just go out and buy them. First, when I find something that I absolutely want, I look at my budget first and see if I will have enough room in my budget to buy the item that I want. I make sure that I will have enough to cover all of my expenses, fund my retirement, and pay a tithe to my church, before I use my money to buy a “want”. Creating a budget is a must if you want to be intentional about building wealth and self-discipline is what you need to have if you want to stay on budget and reach your financial goals.

Finally, how does self-discipline relate to my happiness? At first glance you might say that self-discipline isn’t really related to happiness but when you take a closer look, you’ll realize that it is very related. I believe that if we want to be successful in any area of our life then we must be intentional about personal growth in that area. When we apply self-discipline to happiness we are intentional about creating happiness into the lives of others and our self. This means that we do not talk bad about someone unless it is to give someone constructive feedback that they can grow and learn from. It means that we’re intentional about complementing others in a genuine way. It means finding forgiveness when others have crossed us, even when they don’t deserve it. When we have self-discipline in the area of happiness we do these things and these things are going to be what brings more happiness into our life.

The thing that I want you to take away is that self-discipline is incredibly important if you want to be successful in the areas of health, wealth, and happiness. You can apply self-discipline to different areas of your life in order to be intentional about reaching your goals. In general, one of the key benefits of self-discipline is that it helps to keep us on track and doesn’t allow us to wander off the road that takes us to reaching our hopes and dreams.

5 Tips To Become Happier Today

Happiness is an area of our life that we don’t often spend much time being intentional about growing in but yet it’s one of the most important areas. It’s easy in life to get into a routine and before we know it another year has gone by. It’s almost like we become a robot just going through the motions of our day to day tasks and responsibilities. Life seems to be flashing by and we become complacent when it comes to being intentional about living a life filled full of happiness. When we’re not being intentional about growing in happiness we’re letting opportunities to live a happier, more fulfilling life just slip through our fingers. If we’re going to live a richer life, we need to seize the opportunities to create more happiness for those around us and ourselves. Often times we get caught up in the flow of life, where we wake up go to work, come home, spend a little time with the family, watch some Netflix then go to bed only to do it all over again. It’s like we’re on autopilot and we become numb to the real joys of life because we’re so focused on the next thing that we need to do. So, to help us be more intentional about growing in happiness I’ve created a list of a few happiness tips that will bring more happiness into your life and to the lives of those around you.

  1. The first happiness tip is to remember to stop and smell the roses. I totally understand, sometimes in life we get really busy and we’re just trying to get everything done. But sometimes all we need to do is slow down and just take in a moment and enjoy life. Maybe this moment means sitting close to your spouse, or taking a minute to call your friend that you haven’t talked to in a while, or taking a moment to enjoy a beautiful view of a sunset. These special little moments can be a lot of different things. So, next time one of these moments presents itself take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy it.
  1. The second happiness tip is to complement someone in a genuine way. I like getting complements and I also like giving complements. I bet that you’re the same way. So if we like giving and receiving complements then why is it that we don’t do more of it? Giving complements is a win-win activity. When you complement someone, you win because it makes you feel good that you made someone else feel good and it’s also a win for the other person because the complement makes them feel good too. Both people end up happier. Let’s do more of this!
  1. The third thing is to build someone up. Sometimes I call this talking someone up or lifting someone up. This is similar to a complement but it’s a little different in that its focus is to make the other person feel more capable and confident. In this case you tell someone that they’re good at something, you point out how they’re helping with the rest of the team, and/or you tell them how good of a job they’re doing. You can find lots of opportunities to do this at work. Don’t tell people they’re good at something unless they really are, otherwise you’ll start to lose credibility. The nice thing about this tip is that everyone is good at something so you should be able to find at least one point to make in order to build someone up. This one is a big one especially if you’re in some sort of leadership role such as a manager at your work, or if you’re the owner of a business, or you’re a parent. Any kind of leadership role requires that the leader instills confidence into their team. You need to have a team that is confident in their abilities if you, as the leader, want your team performing at the highest level possible.
  1. The fourth happiness tip is to forgive those who have done you wrong. This is probably the hardest for me because I tend to hold on to grudges. I have a friend who I really admire who is really good at letting go of grudges and forgiving those who have crossed him. When people have crossed him in the past he was mad about the situation in the moment, but he was able to quickly forgive. He has been someone who has been quick to let go of grudges and quick to forgive those who have done him wrong. This is how we need to live our lives. Holding on to grudges and stewing over past events only brings frustration and anger into our lives. That’s not what we want. That’s not how we live a rich life. Let go of the grudges, let go of the anger, and focus on forgiving.
  1. The next happiness tip is to make the most out of bad situations. When you’re given lemons make lemonade. I know, this is sometimes easier said than done. This requires creativity and a “can-do” attitude. Very few things seem to go exactly as planned so be ready to be proactive and resourceful. Be prepared to turn a bad situation into a good situation. Look for the silver lining in the situation and think of ways that you can benefit others or yourself with the given circumstances.
  1. Bonus tip: Count your blessings. We all have been blessed in one way or another and it’s important that when we’re striving to do more that we stop and be grateful for what we have and who we get to share it with. To help me with this I’ve actually taken the time to write down many of the things that I’m grateful for. I highly recommend this exercise because it forces you to count the things that make your life a little bit better. I like the idea of having blessing list or a blessing journal because it reinvigorates that feeling of gratitude which I believe creates more happiness in our lives.

Being intentional about happiness will bring more joy to yourself and those around you. I’ve often seen in life that when we bring happiness to others we bring happiness to ourselves at the same time. There’s just something that feels good about helping others feel good. I believe that we as humans are reciprocators. What I mean by this is when we’re nice to someone, most times, they’re nice back. When we bring happiness into the lives of others, most times, others will bring happiness into our life. Life is too short to not be happy. There are so many opportunities to bring happiness to others and ourselves we just need to be intentional about seizing those opportunities. So, go get some happy!

Why Bad Days Are Good

Sometimes in life we must see the silver lining in the storm clouds that we experience. I believe that one of the ways that we can do this is by looking at the benefit of having bad days. We’ve all had those days when nothing seems to go right or we encounter what seems like insurmountable difficulties, those days where at the end of them we sigh in relief that they’re over. Maybe one of these days would look something like: you spill coffee on yourself when you’re getting in your car to go to work, traffic is backed up so you get to work late, it seems as though your client does everything in their power to make your job harder, you come down with some sort of stomach bug after lunch, you get everything from the store except what you went there for, and your spouse rinds you that the power bill was due last week and had you said you were going to take care of it but forgot. Ever have a day like that when it seems like nothing goes right? Or maybe you have experienced an incredible loss, such as the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a job, or felt the feeling of failure, or felt the feeling of hurt from the conflict with a loved one. I know you’ve had a day or even extended periods of time in your life when you experienced something like this. When it comes to these types of experiences, I’d like to encourage you to remember them, stop, take a minute, and reflect on how terrible they were. Even though it feels so good to forget about bad days I believe it’s important to not completely let go of these times. Why? Because we must know the bad days in order to know the good days. We must have experienced days that don’t go very well in order to appreciate days that do go well. If somehow every day was good we would become accustomed to good days, we would become numb to good days, and we would lose appreciation for how well things are going in our lives. I know this idea of remembering bad days in order to better appreciate good days can seem counter intuitive, but I believe that in remembering the difficult times the good times are that much better.

Recently, I had one of these bad days and at the end of this bad day I reflected on it with someone I love. Taking a moment to realize how bad it was allowed me appreciate not being immersed in the ugliness of the bad day any longer. It was over, gone, and behind me. I could now move on and focus on how great the present time was. It was because of this difficult time that I had that I was able to really enjoy, so immensely, the time after this rough day. I have a special type of appreciation for the difficult times that I’ve had in my life because it allows me to truly appreciate the times that I have that are wonderful. Remembering those hard times can make the good times that much richer.

If you want to get the most out of life and want to appreciate the good moments that you experience a little bit more, I urge you to occasionally take a moment to reflect on the difficult times that you’ve encountered. Remembering these hard times will help you to realize how much better life is now, how good you have it, and will allow you to enjoy life in a new light. The blessings in life are easier to count after going through a rough patch. So, I hope that you better appreciate those days when things go well: when you don’t spill the coffee, when traffic isn’t backed up, when you have good health, when you do remember what you needed at the store, and when you get to enjoy those special moments with the ones that you love. Don’t fear the bad times, embrace them as something that will help you to grow and will help you to live a happier and richer life.

Takeaway:

Are you stopping and taking a moment to really appreciate your life?

Have you had some rough times in life that can remind you of how good you have it now?

Are you going through something difficult now that you can use to help you appreciate better times in the future?

Life Lesson From Chopping Firewood

In the summer of 2015 I went with my good friend Sam to cut fire wood. Being someone who grew up around plenty of apple wood I never had chopped firewood before because apple wood was small enough that it didn’t need to be split. After Sam fell an old dead tree, we got out the axes, and it was time to start splitting. I remember thinking to myself before I started how easy it was going to be, I mean, all you have to do is slam the axe into the wood right? Wrong. I chopped and chopped and chopped and I couldn’t get the wood to split. After about 16 swings and no success Sam stopped me and said “You’re doing it wrong”. At this point I was a little frustrated and I thought to myself, “How do you chop wood wrong? There’s only one way to do it.” Sam took the axe from me and as I curiously watched he brought the axe up over his head and slammed it down with every ounce of energy he had and sure enough the wood split. After watching Sam, it hit me, to split the wood you had to swing as hard as you could, and if you didn’t, then the wood wouldn’t split. Sure enough, when I put every ounce of energy into my swing, the firewood split. Later, I realized the same is true in life, if you want to be successful you have to give it everything you’ve got – every time – otherwise you’re just chopping at wood that will never split. Often in life we become complacent in our level of effort and then wonder why we’re not achieving our goals. If you’ve ever feel like you’re not getting where you want to be in life, maybe it’s time to look at your level of effort and choose to start swinging like Sam.

Takeaway Questions:

  1. Are you contributing enough energy towards your goals in order to achieve them?
  2. Do you need to cut out unnecessary things from your life in order to give you more time and energy to focus on your goals?
  3. Are you goals clear? Are they SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Based?
  4. Are you holding yourself accountable for reaching milestones that will help you reach your goals?
  5. Are your goals helping you to reach your dreams?